Comparing YA to real life: Guys and relationships

This is something that I've been talking to a friend about because as readers, YA or not, we tend to look at things differently. (Or maybe, that's just me) Anyways, the point I'm trying to make is we see reality and then we see bookality (or the fantasy in books) and then we go and compare these things to each other right? Again am I the only one that does this? I'm serious I'll be sitting here thinking what would -insert character name here- do in this situation. Just look at my long post about friendship back from June. Real(Life)ality Vs Bookality. I was going through some things then, and with a lot of help I realized somethings are more important. :)

I'm going to be completely honest here. I've never been much for any kind of relationship, and maybe that's because I never really had one, I never really knew what I wanted, or because I'm really, really shy. I'm not kidding when I say I'm shy. I've never been one to approach someone and just start randomly talking. I guess it's a fear of rejection, of being hurt, and I don't do well with that kind of thing. I'm quite sensitive. The friends I have it took me a lot of time to get use to them, but I'm really trying to work on that. I'm 25 so I'm thinking it's time I get over what fears I might have. So this is where my comparison comes in I guess you could say.

The past few weeks have been really awesome for me because I'm not use to it. Besides family and a few friends I've never had someone seem to care so much about me, or take any interest in me. ( If I have I've probably ignored it. Whoops.) The random stuff I've gotten. (See new phone, rose, stuffed animal) going out to a movie and dinner almost every weekend, dinner and hanging out at the mall when he got off work one day last week, meeting friends of his, and some of the stuff he says. I'm like this can't be happening. What did I do to deserve this? Then I think with every storm, a rainbow comes after, and that's exactly what this feels like. I had my storm when my family decided to pull some crap and leave me wondering where the heck I was going to live. Then comes the rainbow a few weeks later in the form of this guy. I've known him for a year and a half. (We work together.) and I don't know it just feels good. I think back to some of the books I've read this year where friendships have formed, and then it grew into something. The main one being  The Body Finder by Kimberly Derting. I loved Jay and Violet's relationship. Friendship first. I really need to read Desires of the dead, and can't wait for the ending which comes out next year and is titled The Lost Echoes. Not this crazy insta-love. Although, I'm a sucker for that if it's done right. :) Another one is Juilette and Adam from Tahereh Mafi's Shatter Me. I just finished, and it was amazing. It deserves every bit of the praise it gets. The last one that sticks out in my mind would be Mia and Adam from Gayle Forman's If I stay and Where She Went. I loved the way Adam was in If I Stay. He was there for her even though she wasn't there physically. So yeah, that's kind of where I was heading with this post. Sorry it turned out a little longer then expected. It amazes me just the little things that he notices about me, or things I do. Okay, I'll stop now. 

I know these are just a few of the relationships I like in the books I've read. I know there have to be more that I haven't read. What are some books you've read that have these types? Do you like the friendship first, or insta love? Go ahead and share your story. I know I did. :)